This week I spoke to a couple of different people about my husband’s Stage 4 diagnosis and where we are at now. When he was originally diagnosed the end of June/beginning of July there was very little hope for him. Certainly in the weeks and months that followed he went rapidly downhill from a physical perspective. It was to the point that I was worried that he would even see his birthday at the end of August. Despite his prognosis, which was three to six months – “get your affairs in order”, there were several holistic/alternative approaches that we implemented immediately. How much and even whether these contributed to his significant improvement I don’t know, but for what it’s worth here’s what we did.
We did do the “Asparagus Cure” for the first three weeks, until my husband couldn’t stand the sight of the stuff anymore. My sister-in-law made up batches of it, and God bless him, my husband took a dose three to four times a day. I suspect that although this was unpleasant for him it may have set him firmly onto the road to achieving a more alkaline constitution.
Then and now, we start each morning off with an alkaline kick start – even though we didn’t know it at the time. I make about a litre of “lemon water”, simply a slice or two of fresh organic lemon in a pitcher of water. He pours a mugful in the morning, warms it up and drinks it on an empty stomach. Friends of ours have been doing this for years – we should have listened to you long ago!
Daily, until the blood clot appeared, I would spend about 45 minutes on a gentle reflexology treatment on his feet. I’d trained years ago, never certified, but always deferred to it when the kids were sick. For my husband, I put particular emphasis on his lymph reflex. This I’d do in the evening – it served two purposes, first it was gentle so he looked forward to it and it became very relaxing for him. Secondly, it stimulated the reflexes on his feet, encouraging blood flow and hopefully healing. During the blood clot episode, especially at its worst, my husband was not comfortable with the treatment so we did not do his feet, instead I would gently massage his hands. Presently, at this point in time, I may do a reflexology session once a week, but usually do some massage to his hands during the day.
Daily, and continuing to this time, we use the Tibetan Bowl accompanied by Visualization exercises. This is usually done at night and accompanied by a CD playing Gregorian Chants, the room is dim and all other distractions removed (read cats, dog, no tv on). This is not a long session – usually 5 to 8 minutes in length. I warm the bowl and place it directly on his sternum. We do a series of deep breaths together and then I start rotating the mallet around the bowl to achieve a steady and what I call pure vibration. The visualization exercise is modified to what phase of the treatment he is/was in. My husband believed in the efficacy of chemotherapy – so while he was in chemo the visualization would focus on the work that the chemo was doing in his lungs. (I think back to my mother when she battled breast cancer about 30 years ago, she would envision little Roman soldiers going in through the picc line and hacking apart all the cancerous cells.) Sometimes I would use my mom’s imagery. More likely, my husband believes in sound and music, I use the image of vibration that realigns all his healthy cells and effectively squeezes out the unhealthy ones. The focus is always from the positive – health, wellness, love, kindness, hope, etc. These are the words I want in his head as he drifts off to sleep.
Radiation and Chemotherapy – He did them both. Medicine and science have played a significant part in achieving longevity for the human race. Fully aware of the toxic nature of the chemotherapy, my husband reasoned he didn’t have time to try slower acting natural therapies and committed to at least one session of chemo (usually three to four treatments). He has no regrets in this regard. He also didn’t lose all his hair which was a bonus. We used a natural shampoo (Big by Lush Products) and shampooed his hair once every four or five days. Never rubbed it dry or wrapped a towel on his head, rather we patted it dry with a towel. We also used a very wide tooth comb to detangle; no brush in his bathroom anymore.
Exercise is a daily part of his routine and was up until the radiation knocked him to his knees. We walk everyday when possible, as far as he can manage. He also does some limited Tai Chi exercises and may lift a bit of weight using the exercise machine we have in the house.
Daily he takes his Essiac, an Immune Booster and a health tonic made of lemon juice, maple syrup and gingerroot diluted in Perrier. Diet is and always has been a tremendous focus – during chemo protein intake was key, and now we are shifting to a more alkaline diet. I make my own herbal tea using the modified turmeric tea recipe and have created a pleasant warming hot beverage that hopefully helps the body ward off disease.
This is a long post that has, to this point, completely ignored the spiritual and emotional support that family and friends provided throughout this journey. I have always believed in the power of collective thought and I know that on both a conscious level and unconscious level my husband was aware of the invisible positive energy streams (some might say prayers) that were directed his way to help him in his battle. Love is always the answer.